The Key to Healing After A Breakup:
Overcoming Resistance.
The Key to Healing After a Breakup: Overcoming Resistance.​
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If you've ever struggled with getting over a breakup, or even getting over a death, this post could change your life. I'm going to give you everything you need, right here, to change all the intense pain you feel: all the desperation, all the "what if" energy, the "what could have been." The answer is simple, but I need you to open your ears, get in real close, and truly listen. The answer is resistance. Resistance is the source of all your pain. So stop resisting.
The definition of resistance is to oppose what is happening.
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Think about that for a second. When he breaks your heart, instead of opening your eyes to the truth, you resist. You attempt to get him to explain why, you may even give him another chance, you grapple with it in your mind. You think, "If he could have just been more [insert quality] or [insert quality], if he could have just called me more or stopped looking at other women." Stop it! Right there is your resistance, which is the REAL source of your pain!
Why? Let me tell you why. Because when you resist, which I've told you is to oppose what is ACTUALLY happening, you put yourself in this state of yearning for something that CAN NEVER BE! Because you have no control over his behavior, you have no control over their death. He broke your heart. She died. Acceptance is the only way through to peace.
Resistance keeps pain alive because you allow your mind to go on this creative journey of the "what ifs," as if you are God, as if you are a magician and can create a new reality apart from the one and only reality you have, baby.
There's only one reality. The SECOND you stop thinking of what the other possible outcomes could have been, or "what if he just did this," "why couldn't he do that," and you sit with what is REAL, what actually happened, you realize peace. Because if there's a man in front of you and you know the fact that "he broke my heart," you don't want to be with that human. That human caused you immense pain, he cheated, or whatever it was – it becomes easy. When you simply accept the truth at 100% for what it is, without any "conditions," you save yourself pain. Because you are living in reality.
